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Guy's dad walked in on us both butt naked, him on top of me...

bisexualspace — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:22:57 +0000

via reddit

"He goes "Sorry, I really wanted my lighter. I'll meet you in the morning."

-true stories from gayguy's life
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"I was having sex with my then boyfriend on the couch at his mom's place, she comes home earlier than expected and just smirks at us, saying "If you get lube on the sofa, you're buying me new cushions. Have fun boys." and saunters in to her room."

How do you fight the urge?

bisexualspace — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:19:49 +0000

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"Back in my teens/twenties, I discovered that I was sexually attracted to both men and women, and have gone on to have relationships with both. My relationships with men have been "discrete" as I don't think my family and friends would understand/embrace the concept of bisexuality. In short, I'm an in-the-closet bi male.

A year ago, I got into a relationship with this amazing woman, which continues to this day, and have no complaints about. What is driving me crazy is -

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the urge to talk to someone in real life about my bisexuality, without it ruining my life (my deepest fears are my girlfriend, family and friends abandoning me) and
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the urge to touch/feel/caress another man (weirdly, not sex). I have never been unfaithful to my girlfriend but it scares the shit out of me that this feeling might lead to me doing something stupid/rash.

LGBT reddit, any words of advice?"

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Tell her and say it's just how you are and It can't change and you're not ashamed about it.

Bi male here. I'm married and didn't recognize I was attracted to men until 6 months ago. I told my wife. She is supportive. It looks like she is going to let us be a little open, if we keep talking through it here and there. If not, I'll continue feeling very curious and that will be that. I'm more concerned about whether she will let us be open at all, than whether, if open, I can go be with guys. I was scrawny with social anxiety until the past year. I've only been with 3 girls ever, and my wife is the only attractive one out of them, so I feel I have so much to experience.

I'm not out to anyone but my wife, but plan to make some gay friends and be out only to them. I have no desire to be generally out, ever, because my SO is female so I don't have to, & because the norm among my circle of friends is to be pretty uneasy and unwelcoming of male gayness.

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Similar situation here. My wife is hugely supportive, and is bisexual and out, herself. I would like to be openly out one day, even without any plans to date men. Why shouldn't I live as who I really am? Besides, it is an important step in support for all of the LGBT people of the world. If we want anyone to be able to safely come out, then we have to show that support by doing it ourselves. Remember, studies have shown the acceptance someone has of LGBT people increases very clearly the more out people they know. But, please don't think I am telling you what you have to do. I am just telling you how I see it.

OP, you need to talk to your girlfriend. Don't let this fester in you. It might be difficult, but it is important and if you don't come out to her, then hiding it is going to become more difficult, not less.

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Cheating is cheating, whether it's to satisfy a homosexual urge or a hetero one. If you were hetero, you would get the same urges about other women. It's just your hormones doing what they always do and pressuring you to want what you can't have, which is someone other than your girlfriend. It doesn't matter that it's a man.

As for talking about it, talk online, on Reddit or somewhere similar. I know someone who came out when he was drunk- about having experimented as a teenager. Not much changed, but for years afterwards guys were a bit funny around him- no more "bro hugs" when they were boozed, no more getting changed in the same room, and loads of digs about his sexuality- if anything relating to gayness or naked men came up, he'd be the first person mentioned every time.

That in itself was not really a big deal, but I can see he regrets letting it slip. He's been dating women only since I've known him, and says he tried it out to know if he was gay or not, and he didn't enjoy it at all.

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Other than the not cheating part, I think this is terrible advice.

Holding something inside like this is terribly stressful and it really wears on you after a while. Your example of the guy whose friends were weird after he told them is an exception, he just has shitty friends.

After I came out, my friends have been very supportive and/or just don't give a shit. I mean sure, there's the occasional gay joking etc, but it's not like I don't give them shit about themselves either.

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Can a Bisexual Woman and a Gay Man Fall in Love?

bisexualspace — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 17:07:31 +0000

http://www.afterelton.com/pigeonguts/08-12-2010

Top 10: Female Sex Fantasies

bisexualspace — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 15:55:06 +0000

If you think women don’t sit around fantasizing about very naughty things, think again. Women are experts when it comes to dreaming up the sauciest of fantasies, and they don’t bother limiting themselves to the traditional.

The top 10 female sex fantasies covers everything from fetishes to threesomes, and you may be surprised to know that many women want to do more than just fantasize. Some women spend just as much time hoping their men will help put their female sex fantasies into practice. Sound interesting? Read on: We'll give you the inside scoop on the top 10 female sex fantasies, and what she’s really daydreaming about when you least expect it.

read the list http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top10-female-sex-fantasies_1p.html

Why are there rifts in the LGBT community? Don't we need each other?

admin — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 00:33:17 +0000

As an often excluded member of the LGBT community, I've noticed some things in the past 10 years or so...

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I've heard gay men be snarky about lesbians.
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I've seen lines drawn and distinctions made between "types" of lesbians or gay men.
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I've noticed confusion and prejudice about transgenderism.
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As a bisexual, I've personally been the target of discrimination and hurtful remarks from "strictly gay" folks.

Why do we do this to each other? Why are there these prejudices? I'm asking honestly, because I feel that a community that so greatly and so often suffers the slings and arrows of straight society ought to be as nurturing and protective of all its members as possible, rather than causing further hurt and harm.

So, to the gays and lesbians out there, what are your personal experiences that pertain to my concerns? Why do so many of you dislike bisexuality, or even any orientation other than your own? Have you had unpleasant experiences that are related, or is it simply a prejudice that has been passed along?

I will admit that for personal reasons, I'm particularly curious about the disdain and disregard with which many bisexuals are treated by the lesbian and gay community. We do feel left out, folks... what have we done to offend, and why can't we all just get along, eh?

fluffy-sauce response:

In my opinion it's all about heteronormativity. Bisexual and trans and all manner of other queer folk really weaken the position that the hetnorm parts of the community are building on. Just look at the focus on the fight for marriage, when ENDA would be such a bigger win in practical terms. What the public face of the LG community at large is trying to present the rest of the world with is "We're just like you. Monogamous, stable, consistent. Humdrum even. No crazy colors, no lisps, no femme men or butch women. We just like the same gender. It's not a choice". Acknowledging bisexuality and the reality of gender variance weakens that position. It's easier to get people to accept two very straight seeming men or women in a very traditional monogamous relationship than to accept that gender and sexuality aren't necessarily fixed, binary things for some people. It's harder to fight for the right to CHOOSE who you have sex with and how you will present yourself than to say "I have no choice, you should acknowledge us because we can't help what we do".

That said, I do believe that for the vast majority of us, there is no choice involved in our orientation or identity, only a choice of what to do with it. But really -- we have the RIGHT to be who we want, so the "it's not a choice, it's genetic" thing is a bit of an unprincipled cop-out.

I see alot of conversations, even on Reddit, like "Why are we even doing pride? It just gives the straight people more ammo against us, getting all lewd and strange in public". But if we're not fighting for that, what are we fighting for? In a much larger picture, we're fighting to keep society and the law from dictating what is acceptable in our lives and for the right to be ourselves, whatever form that may take.

Anyway, that's my 2 cents. In my opinion, there are alot of other reasons for rifts and divides in the LGBT community, but I think this is the biggest at the moment.

Happy Father's Day

bisexualspace — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 18:36:01 +0000

Happy Father's Day to all the guys and Happy Father's Day to all the girls that pull double duty for whatever reason.

Is it Normal to Have Bisexual Feelings?

bisexualspace — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:23:13 +0000

Sexuality has been a taboo subject for many years whats your opinion?

AZ school demands non-white faces on mural changed to white

bisexualspace — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 22:15:29 +0000

An Arizona elementary school mural featuring the faces of kids who attend the school has been the subject of racist screaming to remove the black student’s face, and now the school principal has ordered the faces of the Latino and Black students to be changed to Caucasian skin.

fullstory — arizona-school-demands-black-latino-students-faces-on-mural-be-changed-to-white

"But it has nothing to do with race! Honest!"

These people may as well start wearing their white robes in public. They're not even attempting to hide the racism anymore.

Chang Sung Jung vs Leonard Garcia is probably THE best MMA fight in history. Watch it!

bisexualspace — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 18:51:24 +0000

That fight was awesome, but I really wanted a zombie win.

America – The Grim Truth

bisexualspace — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 20:45:18 +0000

America – The Grim Truth

By Lance Freeman
escape from the prison you call home

Americans, I have some bad news for you:

You have the worst quality of life in the developed world – by a wide margin.

If you had any idea of how people really lived in Western Europe, Australia, New Zealand, Canada and many parts of Asia, you’d be rioting in the streets calling for a better life. In fact, the average Australian or Singaporean taxi driver has a much better standard of living than the typical American white-collar worker.

I know this because I am an American, and I escaped from the prison you call home.

I have lived all around the world, in wealthy countries and poor ones, and there is only one country I would never consider living in again: The United States of America. The mere thought of it fills me with dread.

Consider this, you are the only people in the developed world without a single-payer health system. Everyone in Western Europe, Japan, Canada, Australia, Singapore and New Zealand has a single-payer system. If they get sick, they can devote all their energies to getting well. If you get sick, you have to battle two things at once, your illness and the fear of financial ruin. Millions of Americans go bankrupt every year due to medical bills, and tens of thousands die each year because they have no insurance or insufficient insurance. And don’t believe for a second that rot about America having the world’s best medical care or the shortest waiting lists: I’ve been to hospitals in Australia, New Zealand, Europe, Singapore, and Thailand, and every one was better than the “good” hospital I used to go to back home. The waits were shorter, the facilities more comfortable, and the doctors just as good.

This is ironic, because you need a good health system more than anyone else in the world. Why? Because your lifestyle is almost designed to make you sick.

Let’s start with your diet: Much of the beef you eat has been exposed to fecal matter in processing. Your chicken is contaminated with salmonella. Your stock animals and poultry are pumped full of growth hormones and antibiotics. In most other countries, the government would act to protect consumers from this sort of thing; in the United States, the government is bought off by industry to prevent any effective regulations or inspections. In a few years, the majority of all the produce for sale in the United States will be from genetically modified crops, thanks to the cozy relationship between Monsanto Corporation and the United States government. Worse still, due to the vast quantities of high-fructose corn syrup Americans consume, fully one-third of children born in the United States today will be diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes at some point in their lives.

Of course, it’s not just the food that’s killing you, it’s the drugs. If you show any sign of life when you’re young, they’ll put you on Ritalin. Then, when you get old enough to take a good look around, you’ll get depressed, so they’ll give you Prozac. If you’re a man, this will render you chemically impotent, so you’ll need Viagra to get it up. Meanwhile, your steady diet of trans-fat-laden food is guaranteed to give you high cholesterol, so you’ll get a prescription for Lipitor. Finally, at the end of the day, you’ll lay awake at night worrying about losing your health plan, so you’ll need Lunesta to go to sleep.

With a diet guaranteed to make you sick and a health system designed to make sure you stay that way, what you really need is a long vacation somewhere. Unfortunately, you probably can’t take one. I’ll let you in on little secret: if you go to the beaches of Thailand, the mountains of Nepal, or the coral reefs of Australia, you’ll probably be the only American in sight. And you’ll be surrounded crowds of happy Germans, French, Italians, Israelis, Scandinavians and wealthy Asians. Why? Because they’re paid well enough to afford to visit these places AND they can take vacations long enough to do so. Even if you could scrape together enough money to go to one of these incredible places, by the time you recovered from your jetlag, it would time to get on a plane and rush back to your job.

If you think I’m making this up, check the stats on average annual vacation days by country:

Finland: 44
Italy: 42
France: 39
Germany: 35
UK: 25
Japan: 18
USA: 12

The fact is, they work you like dogs in the United States. This should come as no surprise: the United States never got away from the plantation/sweat shop labor model and any real labor movement was brutally suppressed. Unless you happen to be a member of the ownership class, your options are pretty much limited to barely surviving on service-sector wages or playing musical chairs for a spot in a cubicle (a spot that will be outsourced to India next week anyway). The very best you can hope for is to get a professional degree and then milk the system for a slice of the middle-class pie. And even those who claw their way into the middle class are but one illness or job loss away from poverty. Your jobs aren’t secure. Your company has no loyalty to you. They’ll play you off against your coworkers for as long as it suits them, then they’ll get rid of you.

Of course, you don’t have any choice in the matter: the system is designed this way. In most countries in the developed world, higher education is either free or heavily subsidized; in the United States, a university degree can set you back over US$100,000. Thus, you enter the working world with a crushing debt. Forget about taking a year off to travel the world and find yourself – you’ve got to start working or watch your credit rating plummet.

If you’re “lucky,” you might even land a job good enough to qualify you for a home loan. And then you’ll spend half your working life just paying the interest on the loan – welcome to the world of American debt slavery. America has the illusion of great wealth because there’s a lot of “stuff” around, but who really owns it? In real terms, the average American is poorer than the poorest ghetto dweller in Manila, because at least they have no debts. If they want to pack up and leave, they can; if you want to leave, you can’t, because you’ve got debts to pay.

All this begs the question: Why would anyone put up with this? Ask any American and you’ll get the same answer: because America is the freest country on earth. If you believe this, I’ve got some more bad news for you: America is actually among the least free countries on earth. Your piss is tested, your emails and phone calls are monitored, your medical records are gathered, and you are never more than one stray comment away from writhing on the ground with two Taser prongs in your ass.

And that’s just physical freedom. Mentally, you are truly imprisoned. You don’t even know the degree to which you are tormented by fears of medical bankruptcy, job loss, homelessness and violent crime because you’ve never lived in a country where there is no need to worry about such things.

But it goes much deeper than mere surveillance and anxiety. The fact is, you are not free because your country has been taken over and occupied by another government. Fully 70% of your tax dollars go to the Pentagon, and the Pentagon is the real government of the United States. You are required under pain of death to pay taxes to this occupying government. If you’re from the less fortunate classes, you are also required to serve and die in their endless wars, or send your sons and daughters to do so. You have no choice in the matter: there is a socio-economic draft system in the United States that provides a steady stream of cannon fodder for the military.

If you call a life of surveillance, anxiety and ceaseless toil in the service of a government you didn’t elect “freedom,” then you and I have a very different idea of what that word means.

If there was some chance that the country could be changed, there might be reason for hope. But can you honestly look around and conclude that anything is going to change? Where would the change come from? The people? Take a good look at your compatriots: the working class in the United States has been brutally propagandized by jackals like Rush Limbaugh, Bill O’Reilly and Sean Hannity. Members of the working class have been taught to lick the boots of their masters and then bend over for another kick in the ass. They’ve got these people so well trained that they’ll take up arms against the other half of the working class as soon as their masters give the word.

If the people cannot make a change, how about the media? Not a chance. From Fox News to the New York Times, the mass media in the United States is nothing but the public relations wing of the corporatocracy, primarily the military industrial complex. At least the citizens of the former Soviet Union knew that their news was bullshit. In America, you grow up thinking you’ve got a free media, which makes the propaganda doubly effective. If you don’t think American media is mere corporate propaganda, ask yourself the following question: have you ever heard a major American news outlet suggest that the country could fund a single-payer health system by cutting military spending?

If change can’t come from the people or the media, the only other potential source of change would be the politicians. Unfortunately, the American political process is among the most corrupt in the world. In every country on earth, one expects politicians to take bribes from the rich. But this generally happens in secret, behind the closed doors of their elite clubs. In the United States, this sort of political corruption is done in broad daylight, as part of legal, accepted, standard operating procedure. In the United States, they merely call these bribes campaign donations, political action committees and lobbyists. One can no more expect the politicians to change this system than one can expect a man to take an axe and chop his own legs out from underneath him.

No, the United States of America is not going to change for the better. The only change will be for the worse. And when I say worse, I mean much worse. As we speak, the economic system that sustained the country during the post-war years is collapsing. The United States maxed out its “credit card” sometime in 2008 and now its lenders, starting with China, are in the process of laying the foundations for a new monetary system to replace the Anglo-American “petro-dollar” system. As soon as there is a viable alternative to the US dollar, the greenback will sink like a stone.

While the United States was running up crushing levels of debt, it was also busy shipping its manufacturing jobs and white-collar jobs overseas, and letting its infrastructure fall to pieces. Meanwhile, Asian and European countries were investing in education, infrastructure and raw materials. Even if the United States tried to rebuild a real economy (as opposed to a service/financial economy) do think American workers would ever be able to compete with the workers of China or Europe? Have you ever seen a Japanese or German factory? Have you ever met a Singaporean or Chinese worker?

There are only two possible futures facing the United States, and neither one is pretty. The best case is a slow but orderly decline – essentially a continuation of what’s been happening for the last two decades. Wages will drop, unemployment will rise, Medicare and Social Security benefits will be slashed, the currency will decline in value, and the disparity of wealth will spiral out of control until the United States starts to resemble Mexico or the Philippines – tiny islands of wealth surrounded by great poverty (the country is already halfway there).

Equally likely is a sudden collapse, perhaps brought about by a rapid flight from the US dollar by creditor nations like China, Japan, Korea and the OPEC nations. A related possibility would be a default by the United States government on its vast debt. One look at the financial balance sheet of the US government should convince you how likely this is: governmental spending is skyrocketing and tax receipts are plummeting – something has to give. If either of these scenarios plays out, the resulting depression will make the present recession look like a walk in the park.

Whether the collapse is gradual or gut-wrenchingly sudden, the results will be chaos, civil strife and fascism. Let’s face it: the United States is like the former Yugoslavia – a collection of mutually antagonistic cultures united in name only. You’ve got your own version of the Taliban: right-wing Christian fundamentalists who actively loathe the idea of secular Constitutional government. You’ve got a vast intellectual underclass that has spent the last few decades soaking up Fox News and talk radio propaganda, eager to blame the collapse on Democrats, gays and immigrants. You’ve got a ruthless ownership class that will use all the means at its disposal to protect its wealth from the starving masses.

On top of all that you’ve got vast factory farms, sprawling suburbs and a truck-based shipping system, all of it entirely dependent on oil that is about to become completely unaffordable. And you’ve got guns. Lots of guns. In short: the United States is about to become a very unwholesome place to be.

Right now, the government is building fences and walls along its northern and southern borders. Right now, the government is working on a national ID system (soon to be fitted with biometric features). Right now, the government is building a surveillance state so extensive that they will be able to follow your every move, online, in the street and across borders. If you think this is just to protect you from “terrorists,” then you’re sadly mistaken. Once the shit really hits the fan, do you really think you’ll just be able to jump into the old station wagon, drive across the Canadian border and spend the rest of your days fishing and drinking Molson? No, the government is going to lock the place down. They don’t want their tax base escaping. They don’t want their “recruits” escaping. They don’t want YOU escaping.

I am not writing this to scare you. I write this to you as a friend. If you are able to read and understand what I’ve written here, then you are a member of a small minority in the United States. You are a minority in a country that has no place for you.

So what should you do?

You should leave the United States of America.

If you’re young, you’ve got plenty of choices. You can teach English in the Middle East, Asia or Europe. Or you can go to university or graduate school abroad and start building skills that will qualify you for a work visa. If you’ve already got some real work skills, you can apply to emigrate to any number of countries as a skilled immigrant. If you are older and you’ve got some savings, you can retire to a place like Costa Rica or the Philippines. If you can’t qualify for a work, student or retirement visa, don’t let that stop you – travel on a tourist visa to a country that appeals to you and talk to the expats you meet there. Whatever you do, go speak to an immigration lawyer as soon as you can. Find out exactly how to get on a path that will lead to permanent residence and eventually citizenship in the country of your choice.

You will not be alone. There are millions of Americans just like me living outside the United States. Living lives much more fulfilling, peaceful, free and abundant than we ever could have attained back home. Some of us happened upon these lives by accident – we tried a year abroad and found that we liked it – others made a conscious decision to pack up and leave for good. You’ll find us in Canada, all over Europe, in many parts of Asia, in Australia and New Zealand, and in most other countries of the globe. Do we miss our friends and family? Yes. Do we occasionally miss aspects of our former country? Yes. Do we plan on ever living again in the United States? Never. And those of us with permanent residence or citizenship can sponsor family members from back home for long-term visas in our adopted countries.

In closing, I want to remind you of something – unless you are an American Indian or a descendant of slaves, at some point your ancestors chose to leave their homeland in search of a better life. They weren’t traitors and they weren’t bad people, they just wanted a better life for themselves and their families. Isn’t it time that you continue their journey?

This article first appeared on Information Clearing House

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admin — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 23:30:50 +0000

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I was the girl your wife was going down on when you came home - w4m

admin — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 23:21:40 +0000

taken from best of craigslist

I was the girl your wife was going down on when you came home - w4m

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I don't know where else to post this. It seems like the most logical place. So, here we go:

Me: intelligent, fun and stunning bisexual that has always kinda been around since I am the younger sister of the best friend.

her: breathtakingly beautiful bisexual... your wife....

YOU: tall, funny, big-brother type who walked in on your wife going down on me when you came home from a long night.

I would like to first off apologize for my reaction to you walking in. If I had known for sure that it was just you, I wouldn't have been so quick to cover up all my goodies. I am smart enough to realize that if your wife has been tasting it, it is only fair that you get to see it.

Second, I would like to explain why there was no hand of welcome extended out to you:

1. I was supposed to have left to pick my brother up about 20 minutes before you walked in.(What can I say? I was sidetracked...)

2. you had a friend waiting for you in the livingroom.

3. you looked like you wanted to punch me in the face.

Under normal circumstances I would have simply asked you if you wanted to join in.... to be honest, reason 2 wouldn't have stopped me, reason 1 was just a minor setback, and well.... reason 3 was the real deal-breaker on that one. Reason 3 explains why I quickly put on my pants, grabbed my purse, and left the house without saying goodbye to you.

So, ok, things have cooled down a bit. Me and you are back to our normal retardedly witty banter, and since then me and your wife haven't done anything.... ok well.... we have had a few make-out sessions, and I may or may not have had my hand down her pants the other night.... but there has been no sex. (not for my lack of teasing-slash-trying... but I mean... you have seen your wife, and you know how awesome she is~can you really blame me?)

I know she has been with other girls in the past, and it never bothered you before. But maybe it was because this time it was at home, and maybe it was because this time it was with me, and there are real feelings there, and it isn't just about the sex....

But I promise I am not trying to steal her away. I don't even want to make you fully share~our work schedules are as such that I can be with her while you are at work, and you don't have to miss any time with her at all!!!

So please, please, please, PLEASE give her permission to be with me again. (....and again and again and again...) because, well... it is SO hard to find a girl[or guy]with the same dating goals and ideals as me, and me and her have this connection that is just like.... well I can't even explain it.

And sweetheart, I *PROMISE* that the next time you walk in on us, I won't cover anything up. I will give you a great display of myself&my goodies,then look you straight in the eye, and ask you why your clothes are still on. Yeah, it may be a little awkward since I have always had little sister status, but I think once you get in the mix of things you will forget all about my relatives.

things you could learn from my transgendered boyfriend

admin — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 23:18:06 +0000

taken from craigslists best

things you could learn from my transgendered boyfriend

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Around craigslist there are a lot of public service announcements, people complaining about or suggesting what their ideal partner should be like. Most of these psa's feature a perverted, low-class guy requesting a young brain-dead nymphomaniac, or a radical feminist chick. The problem, I think, is the disconnect between the genders. Men blame their bizarre standards on testosterone, and women claim to be more cerebral and emotional.

My boyfriend is transgendered, and so lived until the age of 14 as girl full-time, then transitioned and is now completely and totally male. But he has lived both genders and knows the shit that each of them has to put up with! I think his enlightened attitude could help us all understand dating and relationships better, because he's been burned both as a girl and as a man.
He's too shy to do this himself, but let me condense his philosophy of sex and dating:

1. Treat people respectfully. Women do like having a partner that is attracted to them--even in that hungry, sex-wild way--but objectification is really unsexy. So, guys, respect that women are people, not just breasts.

2. Give up on understanding the other gender. Men will never understand what it feels like to be seriously sexually harassed or feel physically helpless against rape in the same way that women do. Women will never understand the pressure to stereotypically make money, put together the furniture from IKEA, and be a rock like men are supposed to. Advertising, movies, etc have brainwashed all of us into our gender roles, and we each think we have it bad. But this isn't a contest. Just be ready to concede that life sucks all around and no one but marketing specialists and beauty pageant coordinators is really responsible for it.

3. Guys, keep your perversions to yourselves. Your hormones might be screaming at you that the chick working the counter at Chipotle is totally fuckable, but keep it to yourself. Your girlfriend is likely not interested.

4. Ladies, learn to take a deep breath before freaking out. It's hard, I know. Our stupid hormones make us flip out more than we want to and sometimes feel out of control. But things will mellow out, often sooner rather than later if you stay calm.

5. Everyone needs to learn to compromise. Don't think that you understand how badly it might hurt your partner if you get a lapdance or cut your hair too short. Talk things through with the people you love. And play fair. If he's allowed a lapdance so is she. It's all about compromise and the rules change between every relationship.

6. Never say "my ex let me go to topless clubs with my friends" or "my ex let me pluck his eyebrows for him" or "my ex would go down on me as soon as I got home from work." Your ex isn't fucking here, are they? And believe it or not, your ex may have let you get away with murder--or, even worse, excessive manscaping--because of a low self-confidence problem. If your partner has the balls/ovaries to put their foot down about something, respect that they are mature and open enough to dialog about it instead of keeping it bottled up.

7. It's all about communication. Don't assume things. Don't assume that she'll hate the action comedy or that he hasn't seen the Notebook. Don't assume your bisexual girlfriend is automatically down for a threesome.

8. Don't try putting yourself in their shoes. Talk, listen, support, but don't ever lie and say that you really understand what someone has been through.

9. Guys, don't demand that a woman keep your house for you unless you are prepared to become the sole breadwinner for the household. Choose a decade to live in and stick to that decision.

10. Everyone--if monogamy is not for you, don't try. A lot of people have healthy, happy lives with nsa sex partners or no sex partners at all. A successful relationship is not necessary for a successful life. Many hearts have been broken by that guy/girl that tried to make it work but couldn't because some people are just polyamorous. Just be honest about it. And get friends that support you.

11. Don't force monogamy or polyamory on anyone else. People are kind of born leaning one way or the other. It's like trying to turn your friend straight so that you can be together. Not happening.

12. Have realistic expectations about your partner. Most men cannot have rippling muscles or earn six figures. Most women are not porn star/Betty Crocker hybrids. We're all just people that need to get over superficial stuff.
This is our attempt to have a more fair and balanced dating guide. Just be happy with who you are.

How I become bisexual

admin — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 23:10:04 +0000

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How I become bisexual (Homophobes - don't click here)

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Date: 2005-01-29, 4:39AM PST

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It's a shame that lots of people don't understand
bisexuality or homosexuality. I'm not a homosexual, I
love women and always will. I just happened to be a
very sexual, so much that there are other "things" can
turn me on. Simply put - I am bisexual.

Speaking of bisexuality, it is a fine feeling. I said -
"it's a shame...", because many people don't even know
what are they missing. Everybody enjoys variety. Every
man can tell you that they are enjoy having sex
different ways. But for me, bisexuality is just another
variety. I understand a little of psychology, so I can
tell you that only people with a high sex-drive can
experience and become bisexual. There's nothing
abnormal with that. It is just unusual for our society,
that's why we have different opinion on that. That's
why I can't admit to my friends and I simply enjoy it
privately, but like I said it's perfectly fine.

There's all bunch of crap going on in the media about
homosexuality, that there is some sort of chemical
imbalance... Bull shet!!! It is a normal feeling to
experience sexual enjoyment with a partner of your own
sex. It's just when you have some sort of problems in
getting alone with people of opposite sex, because of
your stupidity, shame or other problems - that's when
you become homosexual. Simply because it's easier to
get alone with a person of your own sex. Of course,
there are cases when amount of certain hormones of the
opposite sex in your body is very high, so you are a
man, but look like a woman and act like one, and vice-
versa - that's the other case. That is the mother
nature has got involved. But it is very small amount
among all homosexuals.

Again, I'm not a homosexual, I just feel sorry for many
of them, because they are missing of great feeling of
sex with opposite sex. At the same time, I feel sorry
for all heterosexuals, who are missing of a unique
experience in their sex life.

Let me tell you how I become an "open-minded". It's all
started when my girlfriend had give me a pleasure that
I never experienced before. She licked my ass. That's
all. I was on top of her and I was very busy with
kissing her bottom, when she did that. I've got to tell
you, it was so pleasurable that I ejaculated just
because of that. Of course, I was very exited, I was on
top of her 69, I was kissing a person who I loved, my
penis and stomach had touched her fine body and
breasts, and when she licked me, it was just an "end of
the world" at the moment. So I was done.

For the first time in my life I ejaculated without
doing anything with my "tool" (other than being
squeezed between our stomacks). It wasn't inside of her
and no one even touched it. Wow! I didn't know that was
possible at all.

Later, we repeated the same, a few times. I always
loved it. But one time, I just started to analyse these
things. How come I loved it so much? Well, the answer
was simple. Because there are lots of erogenous zones
around the anus. That's why I loved it. It's not
because I was gay or didn't have any women around.
There is medical explanation for this kind of pleasure,
and I was experiencing it.

So that's when I realized that I've got some other part
of my body, that can gives me a sexual pleasure,
besides my penis. I wasn't even thinking about
bisexuality. I just enjoyed what she had given to me.

And she loved me too. She saw that there's something
she has done, that no one else had done to me before.
She felt and saw my cumming when she was kissing me.
She felt good about herself, because she could satisfy
me like no one else. When she saw that I could cum in
40 seconds, instead of our usual 50 minutes per act,
she felt morally satisfied. It made her feel like she
is better than every other girl, I've had before. It
made her feel special!!!

She was right! She was special and I really loved her.

So she continued to entertain me this way. To explore
other possibilities, one time she started to inserting
her finger inside of me. She realized, that if I enjoy
her tongue "almost" inside of me, I may enjoy her
finger as well. And she was right. I was kissing a
person I love, and my lovely girlfriend was kissing me
and as a part of entertainment, when she was touching
all over me, she slightly inserted her finger inside of
me. Just a little.

You know what? It felt good. I wasn't thinking about
other man, I wasn't thinking that she was kind of
f**king me, but I know it felt good, and I liked it.

It was just the next day, when I started to analyze
what just happened, I realized that I enjoyed of
something inside of me. I wasn't thinking about having
a man inside of me, but I did enjoyed her finger.

It took a little time before I made a research and
realized that male's anus has lots of erogenous zones,
that gives a great pleasure when it stretched. It is
in our anatomy. Every man has potential capability to
enjoying this. Unfortunately not every man tries.

Now, it's just a common sense to realize that if I
enjoy something inside of me, it should be normal to accept
another male's part of body.

But that's not all.

...We where apart for a few months. I was out of town.
When I called her, I told her that it is been awhile,
and for our young bodies it's normal for wanting a
sex, since there's not enough at the moment. I didn't
wanted her to cheat on me, and I didn't wanted to cheat
on her too. So I told her about something that many
people are a shame of even thinking, not even talking.
I told her to masturbate. And I told her that I have done
it and enjoying it. I didn't go through all the details
how and when. I just mentioned that it was a relief.

Just thing of it. You are not really cheating. You are
not endanger yourself with sexual transmitted deceases.
You are simply releasing the pressure that accumulated
in your body, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Decpite the fact that, I realised that she is not a
baby and probably tried it before (if not doing it
already) I continued to talk to her like I was asking
her for a favor.

I told her: you are not pervert, you are not doing
anything wrong. It is natural for human body. Everyone
has done it at least once. And you don't have to admit
about this to anybody, not even me. You can tell me
right now something like "yea, you're crazy", but when
you hang up the phone, you can do whatever you want.
Nobody sees you, not even me.

It seemed like a natural way to fulfill the emptiness,
when you don't want to involve someone else, isn't it?

...Time went by. I comeback to town. I can't tell
whether she followed my recommendations or what. But I
admitted to her that I did it. And it was fine with me.
In order to not to put her "in the spot" I never asked
her whether she had done it, but when I admitted to
her, I noticed that she was kind of excited about this
fact. It was something new to us. We started to joke
about this, and when we had sex one day I told her how
I've done it.

At that time I realized that it will turn me on like
crazy if I would see her masturbating. And there she
was, laying naked near me and wanted to watch me
"working on my own". So I gave her "the show". She saw
me masturbate especially for her. That sight turned her
on up to the craziness, and we had great sex
afterwards, but I remembered that she was turned on by
the sight of me touching myself.

After that she was basically forced me on playing with
myself before we had sex every time. She loved to watch
it, and I got used to it. I didn't mind in doing that.
It was pleasurable for me to see that I do something
that turns really on my lovely girlfriend. It became
kind of usual thing, she used to place her head on my
chest facing my private organs. She used to take my
hand and placed it on my penis, inviting me to touch
myself. I used to masturbate with one hand whlie
caressing her body with the other. And after I feel
that she is exited enough (usually obvious by the
amount of her "fluids"), we ended up with traditional
sex, and everyone was happy.

Again, it was a little later when I realized what I
really enjoyed. Another logical analysis had brought me
up to the speed, what I really did. I was touching
myself, and enjoyed it. Seems like no big deal, after
everything I tried before, but it really was. Since I
am a man, I was touching the male's body and enjoyed it
- yeah, my own. You may ask - so what? Every man has
done it. Most people do it constantly. But, that was a
big deal, because if you look at it the other way, I
wasn't just enjoying because "something" had touched
me. I was touching that "something" with my own hand
and enjoyed it (my penis, that is).

Please read again 2 previous sentences, because they
are very important!

My penis wasn't the only part of my body sensed the
pleasure, it was the arm as well.

That's when I realized that if I would touch someone
else's body I could like it almost the same way. That's
when, for the first time in my life I started of
thinking of touching another man. And it was normal,
because my hands already touched my penis, and I know
how that feels, and if I like it, I may as well like
the touching of another man.

So there I was, for the first time fantasized my being
with other man. But I wasn't a "man enough" to do this
in reality.

And even that wasn't all.

Let's admit, being a man we at least once had
fantasized how fun would that be with two women at the
same time. There's no guy in the world who would refuse
that (unless you're gay). And it is exciting sight for
many man to see two women enjoying each other. That was
the other drive, when I realized that it could be
enjoyable for my woman to see me with another man. I
was thinking if she would asked me to bring another
girl to bed - what would I feel?

Maybe I am complete idiot and 99% of women wouldn't
find it excited to be with two guys at the same time,
but I decided to gamble.

And I was right. Our conversation had revealed the
interest for my girlfriend to see me with another man.
I really loved her, and it turned me really on, the
fact that I could do something, that will "drive her
crazy" (in a good way). It was very enjoyable for me to
think that I could brought some pleasure to my women by
touching and being with another man. And when I asked
her: Does she wanted to be with two man at the same
time? The answer was obviously yes.

But the primary reason for bringing another man in our
bed, was love to my woman. I thought that it is selfish
to not let your partner to be with another person. If I
really love her, wouldn't I want her to be happy? We
all know that people are different, and being with
different partners may give you a slightly different
experience. And it seemed wrong to me that she would
have to loose that variety experience just because we
are a couple. Yet, jealousy and some of my "macho"
thoughts wouldn't let me receive enjoyment of seeing my
woman with another man.

So, to remove this block, I finally found the solution:
In order to not to get jealous of another man - I have
to learn to enjoy that other man. If I will think of
him as my own toy, then I can't be jealous at all. And
since the durty thought was already in my mind, it was
easy to convince myself to give it a try.

I used to be a jealous type of person, but after that I
saw this as an opportunity to give a new pleasure
experience to my woman. Yes, I can kiss her, I can
touch her and I can have her, but I can also do
something that not a lot of men can do, I can give her
a pleasure of being with another man. And since I am
able to do and arrange that, she was grateful to me for
the pleasure which she never experienced previously.
And that wasn't the fact of being with someone else. It
was a feeling of openness and true love, the love so
strong that will allow her to enjoy pure sex and
nothing else. I didn't shared my love. I loved her and
she really loved me too. I just loved her so much, that
I wanted her to enjoy everything, even another man.

When she understood my philosophy, she started to love
me even more. It was a great experience for both of
us.

.....

That was about 10 years ago. We split for some stupid
reason, which has nothing to do with sex, lust or my
bisexuality, because the sex was always great.

I was so secure in our relationship (and in my self)
that I wasn't afraid that she would like someone else
more than me.

To me, another man was just a sex-toy, which I let my
girl to play with

But, can you love your partner so much that you would
let her or him to be with another person, just for fun?

Would you hit it??

admin — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:17:52 +0000

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