How to Date a Bisexual

1. Understand that many bisexual people will not prefer one gender over another. Many, even those who eventually marry, may shift between sexes depending their feelings. They lead with their emotions and feelings of love, attraction and trust, instead of sexual preference. When entering into a serious dating relationship with a bisexual person, be prepared to accept their attraction to another of a sexual difference - the same way straight or gay people are attracted to members of their preferred sex. Remember that if this person is dating you in the first place, it is because they are attracted to you as an individual.
2. Respect your date's bisexuality as part of his or her identity. Accept that their sexual orientation can be heterosexual or homosexual, and they might flit between one or the other. Understand that they could also be mostly one or the other, which in fact makes them bisexual. Most bisexual people consider themselves to always be bisexual, no matter who they are dating at the time. It is important not to suggest that they are straight if they are in a heterosexual relationship, nor that they are gay if they are in a homosexual relationship. As such, do not question when they meet someone of the opposite or the same sex, and are attracted to them; but accept them as they are if you wish to retain your relationship with them.
3. Enter into a serious relationship with a bisexual just as you would with any other person of your preferred gender. Understand that if they are attracted to a member of different or the same sex as yours, that they are not cheating on you; just as straight or gay people will be attracted to other members of their preferred sex. Remember that your partner is attracted to you as an individual, and by understanding that they wish to remain with you, it will make your relationship stronger. Remember that in a serious relationship, your partner should not only be your lover, they should also be your best and most trusted friend. If you feel you cannot accept this, then do not enter into the relationship - but do remember: it's no different than how, for example, an exclusively heterosexual person will always be attracted to the opposite sex, but they are in a relationship with you.^[4]
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    Sharing your life and your feelings is an important aspect of any relationship
   Maintain a healthy relationship with your bisexual date, as you would with any other date that you enjoy being with, or even love. Be honest with them, be open with them, and share thoughts and feelings. Forgive one another and tell the unarguable truth when it comes to disagreements, learn to appreciate your partner rather than show unhealthy criticism. Help each other when needed, and communicate openly about most any thing as you would, with a person of your same sexuality.
5. Give them space. You may want to constantly ask them what gender they prefer at the moment, how they feel, etc. - don't. If you keep on pestering them, they may become irritated or scared to tell you their genuine feelings. A bisexual person needs space to reflect on their own emotions without somebody else constantly butting in; so give them a healthy amount of time on their own. Always be there for them to talk to, but never pester them.
6. Be proud of them. Don't be afraid to introduce them to your family and friends because they are bisexual. Let them know that you respect and love them, and that you are behind them all the way. Other people you know may not approve of the relationship, but that's their own opinion - don't let that influence you.

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